Hello NickZ
I’m sure there are plenty of opinions and advice on here but ‘definitive’, well I’d say no.
Hiaceshoutheast is a good place to start but the specs for all lubricants have changed in the last 30y and what was specified back in the 1990s has long since been superseded in my experience. That said you will then face the option of using a newer, possibly more expensive (?) lubricant, which ought to be better or the exact correct lubricant, which might be inferior. Motor factors tend to sell most of the modern lubes, which are probably over-specced for the Hiace. As these are the typical oils etc they sell, they will probably be only a fraction more than the ‘proper’ stuff.
This is the list I work with:
Transmission Fluid - Manual (mine) - G52: SAE 75w90 GL-5 or API GL-4 or GL5, 2.6L, SAE 75W-90 or Geartech SS (or FS 75W-90(better)).
Front differential: SAE 80w90 GL-5. Prob SAE 75w90 GL-5 will be fine or Hypoid gearoil APi GL5 at >-18C SAE 90 (or Geartech FS 75W-90).
Rear differential. LSD rear differential (mine) use hypoid LSD specific gear oil: I use Castrol 75w90 GL-5 for LSD, but a normal gear oil plus modifier should be fine (so, Hypoid gearoil APi GL5 at >-18C SAE 90) (or Geartech LS 90).
Transfer Case: SAE 75w90 GL-5 or API GL-4 or GL5, 2.6L, SAE 75W-90 (or Geartech FS 75W-90).
Power steering: ATF Dexron 2. It’s pretty old hat now and I expect any similar Dexron number will be fine (or ATF DII (2) or DIII (3) (better)).
Brake and clutch: DOT 3 (SAE J1703 or FMVSS No 116). I now use DOT 4. It’s better and not more expensive.
Engine: API CF-4, -12C up 15W40, but this depends on general ambient temp. There are tables in the manuals to specify the correct weight, but again API CF-4 is a pretty low standard by modern standards (or Ultra 15W-40).
These are the numbers from Hiacesoutheast, the manual or products from Westway Oils or Smith&Allan.
If you can limit the number of different oils (within reason) then you can rationalise your purchasing. 25L is a sweet spot and for engine oil will only be 3 to 4 changes. The Hiace takes a lot of fluids so I think it’s definitely worth buying in reasonable bulk. This is expensive to buy in 5L bottles. Westway oils seems good as seems Smith&Allan. Not bought from the latter but a fiend with a LR uses them. Give either company an email / ring and see what they suggest?
Finally do pay attention to the quality of the stuff you’re removing and replace any oil seals if they are leaking. All the plugs on mine are all 24mm thankfully and with magnets of the drains. The only difficult one is the fill on the front diff. I have a drilled, short, 24mm socket that takes a 3/8” breaker bar. Maybe there’s a SST for if, but I don’t know and couldn’t find anything else to fit. You can get the crush washers in packs of 10 from Toyota. Full oil change will use all 10.
Are you also doing coolant?
HTH!!